Together
One of the delights of having two children is not only the fact that I can tell them to go and play together when I'm busy, but also just how wonderful it is when they are playing together and to watch their developing relationship. Seeing them being affectionate or laughing or playing or even just sitting with each other makes my heart swell. It's like my feelings for each of them get bundled together into one great big bubble of love.
Of course, they fight like cats and dogs much of the time. Freyja can be an introverted soul, enjoying her 'me-time', while Theo just likes to throw himself into it all and get involved. Freyja is sensitive and bossy, Theo cheeky and defiant, not always a happy combination. Theo wants to do everything that Freyja does, which is not always well received. And they'll do their utmost to be the one who is being thrown in the air by daddy or tickled by mummy.
But when they do play together, they seem to relish each other's company at a level beyond any of their other friendships. They get quite rowdy, fighting and tickling and chasing. They can make each other laugh and laugh. And increasingly they share hugs and kisses as well as games and laughter.
To anyone else, they probably have an indifferent relationship or one where Theo annoys Freyja and Freyja shouts at Theo and tells him to leave her alone. But to me, privy to their moments of hilarity and abandon, as well as those quiet times when Freyja climbs into Theo's cot in the morning and reads with him, it is something special.
Freyja is also very protective of her brother. While she will quite happily tell him to go away and leave her alone, if someone jokes that they are going to take him home with them, she's straight on the defensive, shouting 'no, you can't have my brother'. And when I use the old 'okay we are just going without you' trick on Theo, it's Freyja who throws the wobbly, tearfully sobbing to me 'you can't leave Theo, I love my brother'.
Whether their bond will last who knows? But it is one of my real hopes that my children will remain close friends throughout their lives. For now, I love that they have each other, a little buddy to play with, to eat with, to sit quietly with or to chase manically around house.
Of course, they fight like cats and dogs much of the time. Freyja can be an introverted soul, enjoying her 'me-time', while Theo just likes to throw himself into it all and get involved. Freyja is sensitive and bossy, Theo cheeky and defiant, not always a happy combination. Theo wants to do everything that Freyja does, which is not always well received. And they'll do their utmost to be the one who is being thrown in the air by daddy or tickled by mummy.
But when they do play together, they seem to relish each other's company at a level beyond any of their other friendships. They get quite rowdy, fighting and tickling and chasing. They can make each other laugh and laugh. And increasingly they share hugs and kisses as well as games and laughter.
To anyone else, they probably have an indifferent relationship or one where Theo annoys Freyja and Freyja shouts at Theo and tells him to leave her alone. But to me, privy to their moments of hilarity and abandon, as well as those quiet times when Freyja climbs into Theo's cot in the morning and reads with him, it is something special.
Freyja is also very protective of her brother. While she will quite happily tell him to go away and leave her alone, if someone jokes that they are going to take him home with them, she's straight on the defensive, shouting 'no, you can't have my brother'. And when I use the old 'okay we are just going without you' trick on Theo, it's Freyja who throws the wobbly, tearfully sobbing to me 'you can't leave Theo, I love my brother'.
Whether their bond will last who knows? But it is one of my real hopes that my children will remain close friends throughout their lives. For now, I love that they have each other, a little buddy to play with, to eat with, to sit quietly with or to chase manically around house.
posted by solveig at
7:02 PM
5 Comments:
Aaah this is a lovely post. That brother/sister relationship is one of the things about having twins that I'm most excited about. Can't wait to see how it develops x
It is great to see. I remember when my children first started really noticing each other and interacting and how happy it made me.
Theo was sick today and had to stay home - I thought Freyja would be fine because she quite likes having her child minder to herself but when I told her Theo wasn't going, she said 'but I love my brother'. And then when she got home the very first thing she asked me was 'where's Theo?'. So sweet.
I'm hoping that my girls will get a bond like that - recently Toddlergirl has started to notice Babygirl and be affectionate with her, its made my heart melt
It is lovely. I mean they drive each other crazy too, but I know how much they mean to each other as well. I really, really hope it lasts.
S x
I'm sure it will last. It made my heart melt too when I saw them cuddling each other on the window seat the other day. So sweet. And then to se poor Lola trying to mustle in on the action to no avail - thank goodness we're giving her a sibling xx
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