Friends
Freyja had her friend Ruby round to play the other day. Ruby's mum and I always chuckle to ourselves about how they are like two old women when they get together, nattering away, oblivious to everything else going on around (although we did have a rather alarming insight into the future at Sam's birthday party, during musical statues when our two hung around the edge of the circle, wriggling their little bottoms when the music came on, and looking way too cool for school...)
Anyway, as I said, Ruby came round and they took themselves off for the day - upstairs to Freyja's room to play. Normally Theo and Freyja hang around together when we are at home, but with Ruby on the scene, he wasn't welcome. He hung onto the stair gate crying, desperate to be with them, and if he ever managed to get near them I'd be called in to remove him because he was 'annoying them'. What this meant was that I found myself with an entire afternoon in which I had to entertain Theo myself - normally I leave that to Freyja.
So Theo and I pottered in the kitchen and I listened to the girls playing - I was particularly amused to hear how after they laughed they would each sigh and say 'oh dear'. During a quiet moment I ventured upstairs to find them both naked sitting on Freyja's bed, the entire contents of her chest of drawers strewn across the floor - a mega game of dress up about to begin. I retreated quickly to the safety of the the kitchen and playing stacking bricks with Theo.
I used to worry that Freyja hadn't had a chance to make her own friends - all her friends were the children of my friends. I still hope that at school she will get a chance to form relationships of her own, but I also hope that the friendships she has made through the friendships I have made since becoming a mother will be lasting ones.
Anyway, as I said, Ruby came round and they took themselves off for the day - upstairs to Freyja's room to play. Normally Theo and Freyja hang around together when we are at home, but with Ruby on the scene, he wasn't welcome. He hung onto the stair gate crying, desperate to be with them, and if he ever managed to get near them I'd be called in to remove him because he was 'annoying them'. What this meant was that I found myself with an entire afternoon in which I had to entertain Theo myself - normally I leave that to Freyja.
So Theo and I pottered in the kitchen and I listened to the girls playing - I was particularly amused to hear how after they laughed they would each sigh and say 'oh dear'. During a quiet moment I ventured upstairs to find them both naked sitting on Freyja's bed, the entire contents of her chest of drawers strewn across the floor - a mega game of dress up about to begin. I retreated quickly to the safety of the the kitchen and playing stacking bricks with Theo.
I used to worry that Freyja hadn't had a chance to make her own friends - all her friends were the children of my friends. I still hope that at school she will get a chance to form relationships of her own, but I also hope that the friendships she has made through the friendships I have made since becoming a mother will be lasting ones.
posted by solveig at
7:50 pm
1 Comments:
you may well get to the point that we've reached with Jacob where his birthday party this year was just his friends from school rather than the children of our friends. While he gets on with them all swimmingly when they do meet up, at his 4th birthday party he pretty much ignored them in favour of his "real" pals.
Once Freyja is as school, you'll probably end up spending a lot of time chatting with the parents of her new friends; happily, the parents of Jacob's school friends are all v nice, which is just as well because we're going to be spending a lot of time with them over the next six years - at least!
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